It doesn't appear that you have set up network load balancing on the servers yet. This should be the first thing you do prior to even attempting to load balance the servers.
First, do you have a cluster name for the servers? You will need to have a DNS record created for the cluster as this should be your access path.
Next, you will need to set up NLB for both servers and make sure that both servers are responding to requests. In our environment, each front end server has two network cards, so our settings are somthing like:
After network load balancing is configured, you need to make sure that both servers can ping one another and that other machines in the network can ping both servers by their individual name and the cluster name.
Next, you want to change the alternate access mappings for your web site (don't do central admin). Change the default zone to respond to your cluster DNS name. Test to make sure each server is working. You should now be in a load balanced group. We verified this setting is working by disabling network cards.
In our environment, we decided to host central admin on only one server. I haven't even begun thinking about how to get that working as I haven't had the opportunity to simluate this in a test network yet.